Research suggests that extroverts make up fifty to seventy percent of the population. In general extroverts love to talk about anything, so they would find it easier to deal with loss and grief, right? As we delve deeper into the subject of the extroverted personality, the answer may not be so simple as just “talking through it”.
Many theories agree that everyone has introversion and extroversion qualities, however at our core, we tend to be more introvert or extrovert. There are lots of ways to discover which one is more applicable to you.
At Journaling Through, we ascribe to the theory of energy as it relates to extroversion.
Where do you get your energy from?
People or solitude?
Do you become more energized around people or do you prefer alone time to reinvigorate?
Extroverts tend to be more outgoing, action-oriented and comfortable in social settings. Following the theory of energy for extroversion, this personality is simply more outward focused, external experience oriented and usually enjoy discussions with people, often large groups, as a way to cope with problems or difficult situations.
No two people will deal with grief in the same way. Our circumstances surrounding the loss, past experiences, age, religious beliefs and traditions all play a vital role in our grieving process. As an extrovert, understanding that certain personality traits will also dictate our understanding of loss will make the journey of healing a bit easier.
Because extroverts receive their energy from other people, journaling as a strategy to work through loss is highly recommended in a group setting. Guided journaling allows you to become more focused and allow for a deeper discussion of your loss. This is very helpful because extroverts tend to have a wide variety of interests.
When we deal with our own emotions without an appropriate outlet, it could be detrimental to our health, mentally, emotionally and even physically. As an extrovert, you look to others and outside sources for inspiration. Sometimes extroverts can come across as attention-seeking, being easily distracted or unable to be alone with their thoughts.
It is easy to fall into burnout, scattered thoughts and unhealthy habits (excessive spending or partying) when we don’t deal with our loss in a healthy way. While you gain energy from talking to other people, you can also become burned out. Not all support systems are conducive to healing or a positive environment. Journaling support groups help to guide everyone towards a common goal: HOLISTIC, HEALTHY HEALING.
As an extroverted personality type, it is very easy to feel that you need other people all the time to deal with the loss. This could create a lack of control over your own emotions. If we constantly look to the outside for help, we never look to ourselves for the answers. It is important to find a balance between talking about your loss and introspection.
You are enough.
You are enough.
You are enough.
If at any time during your journey of dealing with loss you feel that you can no longer deal with your emotions by yourself, reach out. Reach out to a loved one or a professional. Your emotional, mental and physical health is important. You are important.